Generational Patterns

Life is a pattern; we all have ours, some of them are good, while some of them are bad.

We keep repeating these patterns, over and over and over again.

Over and over and over.

Why?

Because patterns are comfortable, patterns are familiar and safe, even if they're not good for you or anyone else. 

Even if they hurt the ones you love.

Our brain is obsessed with patterns; we evolved a mind that excels in recognizing them and gets confused and unhappy without them.

It will happily make up patterns, even when there are none. If you've ever looked at the clouds and seen patterns, then you're experiencing something called Apophenia.

A life without patterns is devoid of colors; patterns are the spices of life that keep us going.

Some patterns are our own creation, some we inherited from our parents or guardians, who in turn inherited them from theirs.

The ones we inherit are generational patterns, silently traveling through generations of parents and children, and being passed on as long as they remain undetected.

Generational patterns are almost always a trauma response, sometimes from a trauma so ancient that nobody alive today remembers it anymore.

The only way to break a generational pattern is to recognize and name it, to choose not to follow the path of least resistance and instead create something better of your own making.

To not pass on to others what was passed on to you, without consideration or kindness.

To ask why you do what you do, or why you don't.

To be present and mindful in your patterns, instead of absent and inconsiderate.

To build something new, rather than just consume and repeat what is already there.

To weave your own patterns and lay to rest the ones you inherited, even if they brought you the comfort of familiarity and felt safe, while the alternative of the unknown feels scary.

Break the generational pattern; that pattern is not you.

Weave your own patterns, make your own choices.